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Sister Eileen Fucito

Sister Eileen Fucito on Crossroads Magazine

Sister Eileen Fucito and OLC featured on ORTV on December 1.

An interview with Sister Eileen Fucito was featured on the latest episode of the Archdiocese of Hartford’s ORTV Crossroads Magazine. 

Sister Eileen gave a talk here at OLC entitled, Spirituality of Women for the Future of the Church. She reflected on two questions. “Where is the Church in relation to women nearly sixty years after Vatican II and “Where are women in relation to the Church?” Then she spoke with Kaley Collins of ORTV about her presentation.

Click this link to watch the interview. https://www.ortv.org/streaming/Crossroads_stream.htm. Look for the December 1, 2019 episode. To view a program, click on either the Thumbnail or Description of the program you wish to view. This loads the video into the player, then click on the player to begin viewing. There may be a few seconds of black before the video begins.

Thanks to everyone at ORTV for covering Our Lady of Calvary on Crossroads Magazine.

annulment

Who Needs an Annulment?

Sometimes, when couples want to make plans to marry in the Catholic Church, they are often surprised when one partner, especially if non-Catholic, must apply for an annulment.  How does it happen that even non-Catholics must abide by Catholic rules governing marriage?

Read about the changes made to the annulment process by Pope Francis.

Most Catholics are pretty clear about the rules for themselves: unless they get special permission, Catholics must marry before a priest and two witnesses, otherwise the marriage is not considered valid. Marriage in the Catholic Church is a sacrament, and sacraments are regulated by the Church.  Only the annulment process can determine when the sacrament of marriage is not a binding contract. Once a marriage is declared null; that is, determined never to have existed correctly, the Catholic person is considered not married, and may marry in the Church.

While Catholics are obliged to marry before a priest and two witnesses, members of other faith communities, either Christian or non-Christian, are under no such obligation. They may marry in a religious ceremony or a civil ceremony, or any other context and that marriage is considered by the Catholic Church to be a binding lifelong commitment.

While Catholics must marry in the Church, non-Catholics may marry in any context they wish.  All marriages are considered to be lifelong commitments.  No person may make a second lifelong commitment if the first spouse is still living.

For instance, John is a Catholic and has never been married before.  He is free to have a Catholic wedding.  Susan, his fiancé, is Lutheran.  She married another Lutheran (or a member of any non-Catholic faith community) and then divorced.  It makes no difference if Susan married before a Lutheran minister or before any other duly licensed Justice of the Peace.

The Catholic laws on marriage respect Susan’s first marriage as a binding lifelong commitment. Thus, Susan is not free to marry in the Catholic Church unless her first marriage is annulled according to the Catholic process.

These rules bring us good points and not so good points.  On the negative side, the rules can be very complex, and the annulment process can be difficult, time-consuming and somewhat intrusive for Catholics and non-Catholics alike.  Of course, another very serious difficulty is that not all marriages can be annulled.

On the positive side, the intent of the rules is to give great respect to the sacrament of marriage as a sacred vocation and a path to holiness.  Popes have taught that the family is the “domestic church,” in which children are evangelized by the faith of their parents.  Marriage is sacred because children are sacred, and family life is sacred.

The situation of the sacrament of marriage is very tenuous in today’s culture, where the divorce rate is almost 50%, and where more and more couples do not choose marriage at all, in any form, but rather simply live together.  Studies have shown that unstable homes leave lasting imprints on children.

Yes, the rules concerning marriage in the Catholic Church are complex and demanding.  However, their intent is to safeguard and respect the vocation and sanctity of the sacrament.  How to bring these two realities, the restrictions, and the intent, into harmony is a challenge for all who love the Church.

NEW! Sister Elissa will be offering an Annulment Workshop here at OLC on Saturday, February 22, 2020. 

Sr. Elissa Rinere, C.P. has been a Passionist Sister for over 30 years. She holds a Master’s degree in education from the University of Rhode Island and a Doctorate in Canon Law (J.C.D.) from the Catholic University of America.

Annual Evening Of Spirit at OLC

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Our Lady of Calvary hosted our third annual Evening of Spirit Wine Tasting on the evening of October 5th. We hope you enjoy these photos taken by our Volunteer of the Year, Terry Roach at the event. Thank you, Terry!

Firstly, we are so very grateful to all those who attended our Evening of Spirit in support of OLC’s mission.

Next, we want to extend our sincere appreciation to all of our Evening of Spirit Sponsors:

  • Aetna
  • Anthem
  • Harvard Pilgrim Health care
  • Lockton Companies
  • Mary Wynn
  • Maximum Beverage
  • NexClaim Recoveries, LLC
  • Resources Management Corporation

We are grateful to the many people who made the evening such a great success, including our Board Chair Bill Husic, and our Evening of Spirit Wine Tasting committee led by Gina Dolan. We wish to thank the Retreat League Committee, including those who contributed gift baskets, those who volunteered before the event to set up and those who worked during the event.  This event couldn’t have happened without you! Finally, we want to thank our event planner Kymrie Zaslow and all our staff for their many contributions to making our evening such a triumph.

We are pleased to announce the winners of our three signature raffle prizes. The winners were: Jude Donato, Giants Box; Scott Kettig, Italian gold bracelet; and Tom Yandow won the Patriots Box. Congratulations and thank you for your support of Our Lady of Calvary Retreat Center!

We hope to see everyone back at OLC soon.

employment opportunity

Employment Opportunity: Dishwasher

Our Lady of Calvary has an immediate employment opportunity.

OLC is in need of a person above 16 years old, to work in our kitchen dishwashing room. Hours are available during the week and on weekends. Duties include washing dishes, pots, pans and silverware after each meal along with general kitchen cleanup. Training will be provided for the dishwashing equipment. Also, assist with setting up the dining room after each meal. Hours include Friday evenings (light supper), all day Saturday (breakfast, lunch and dinner) and Sunday morning (breakfast). The qualified applicant has to be very dependable and will need transportation to and from the OLC Retreat Center. This is a great job for an energetic person that likes to be around fun people in a meaningful and spiritual environment. Any interested applicants may contact Ron Miceli at OLC. (860) 677-8519.